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What is Specific Noticing?

Comments that notice your child's actions in simple ways.
Comments that say exactly what you see.
Comments that do not contain any judgment words (i.e., good, great, nice, super).
Comments that give your child emotional control over their feelings.
Comments that rely on your positive VOICE TONE & your positive FACE.

Why specific is best!

You are stacking blocks. ☺ Wow. Four of them! ☺

You are watching Dora and singing along. ☺ I will be upstairs. ☺

Your shoes are tied. ☺

Oh, you’re drinking healthy juice. ☺

You tidied up all your books. ☺

Your washing is all in the basket. ☺

You folded all the washing and put it away. ☺

You helped your friends at school , and the teacher told me she was very glad, as it was very helpful as it had been a long day. ☺

A child will have a hard time denying or disagreeing with this type of notice.

Remember: Specific Noticing is about giving positive attention without judgment.

You aren’t expecting a response.
You are just noticing and moving on.

You are training your child to recognise and validate what they do every day that is supporting their development, the household, friends, and so forth.

This will also remind good noticing practices in your brain in recognition of all that you do and take for granted in this busy, busy life! This way, you also model this behaviour to the child.